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This girl I just started dating raped me yesterday. I don't know what to do.
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This girl I just started dating raped me yesterday. I don't know what to do.
This girl I just started dating raped me yesterday. I don't know what to do.
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Please read Edit 6 before upvoting, or replying...you´re an asshole, many people wanted to help you.
Report her to the police, seriously. more men get raped then you would think and people just laugh it off with "Haha lucky guy" but it isnt alright. REPORT HER, or take the basic reddit advice, lawyer up
Just to piggyback on this but you shouldn't feel worried if she then claims you raped her. False rape claims usually take place when consensual penetrative sex has occurred. The fact that your semen or any biological evidence will not be found in or on her whilst you have injuries associated with anal rape will let police and medics know fairly quickly who is the victim here. Best wishes.
Riding the top but please, you need to know that this is in no way your fault and nothing to be ashamed of. It makes you no less of a person or a man. You need to call the police, let them perform a rape test (they'll see the lacerations), and when it blows over, get help. The absolute best of luck to you.
Also, piggybacking on this: Her actions don't mean you're not still a virgin. Your first time is the first consensual time.
Yeah man, losing your virginity is about sharing a moment of absolute trust and love with someone you care about, this makes you no weaker than any other, if anything it will mean that when you share that moment it will be with someone who you have had to trust extraordinary amounts, much love, brother.
Well technically he didn't get his dick wet either so he is still a virgin. Just a piece of plastic up the bum, coz if plastic up the bum inferred losing your virginity I would have lost mine at like age 5 when I experimented with lego.
Man, almost all the signs of crazy showed up within a week. Girl getting pissed for not being able to get the guy to consent in under a week. She brought a dildo to his apartment before any physical connection had been made. She's using her family members to threaten and intimidate him.
This woman doesn't deserve to be in public. OP, I know it will be hard, but keep pushing on with your legal pursuit. If you feel threatened, file a restraining order and get some pepper spray or a taser. Have a friend stay over at night.
By the way -- here he points out that he was drugged. Useful information for his story.
How do I proof it and what about her brother? He can be a violent guy at times and she can be very convincing at times... I feel as if the police would side with her.
There should be evidence of an object being forcibly inserted - go to the cops NOW. Even if you don't decide to take it further, without the evidence, they can't do anything.
There is. It pains a little and is red and slightly swollen. Shouldn't I go to a doctor first as another Redditor suggested?
I don't know if the police require the rape kit to be done by their own doctor or if you can go to your own doctor, either way, you need to get your injuries documented so you can show what she did to you. I advise getting in touch with a rape crisis centre near you - they'll help you deal with the psychological side of things and be able to look after you in terms of telling you what will happen next, and what to expect.
The sooner a rape kit is done, the better. Emergency rooms are well prepared for these situations.
I'm thinking a rape kit would yield very little biological evidence under the circumstances generally outlined above.
I believe that a rape kit isn't just looking for biological evidence. The doctor examining will probably also check for signs of forced entry, bruises, etc. and take photographs of the injuries. (I am not 100% on this, but if they don't, the OP needs to tell the doctor to do so.)
This is pretty much how it works. It doesn't always involve a doctor though some places use SANE Nurses Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners who are specifically trained to go through the process of evidence collection and work with the police to preserve the evidence chain and testify in court if required.
a rogue dildo can still do quite a bit of observable physical damage
Do you think she drugged you? Time is of the essence. Get to a hospital/doctor immediately. There they can do a tox screen to see if date rape drugs turn up in your system(provided it was within the last day or so)
Probably should go to the police, who will then tell you to see a doctor. You need to have a paper trail showing everything so you can supply it as evidence.
I would bring it up to him before she does. He'd probably be more inclined to believe you.
There should be evidence, go to the police, don't waste any more time.
Your "friend" directly threatened you. That's also a crime and should also be reported.
OP, I'm sorry for what happened to you and am glad you're going to the ER. Things won't be easy for a while, but it's better if you (and she) deal with this, or it could happen again to someone else, and you don't want to look back later and wonder "if only I had..."
Sidenote: I am disgusted by how little I had to scroll down to find the posts calling op out for being fake/gay or victim-blaming. An even shorter scroll than if a woman had posted with the same problem. Here's what I always think of these posts: I don't care if it's fake. If there's even a chance of it being real, trying to help is worth it. If you don't agree, navigate away. There are times where it's appropriate to call "fake!" with your reasonable suspicions (i.e. if someone's asking for money) and there are times where it's not. Asking for more information/specificity is ok; demanding it from someone who might've undergone a recent trauma, and saying it's because you don't believe them, is the height of reddit douchebaggery. Maybe you should save that for situations where, if you're wrong, you'll be seen as a cynical misanthrope, instead of piling hate on trauma and seen as an actual terrible person.
I don't care if it's fake. If there's even a chance of it being real, trying to help is worth it.
God love you. Best thing I've read all day.
Finally, someone on reddit who actually thinks rape is a more serious crime than a fake AMA.
Hats off to you, this is the right kind of attitude. How much is honestly lost by offering consolation and advice to an OP that's faking, versus calling fake on someone who has legitimately been hurt? Faking a sap story for attention is a shitty thing to do, sure. But I think it's shittier to accuse someone of faking when they are seriously hurt. And since there's no way of knowing at this point, I figure nothing is lost by offering consolation and advice.
That is one of the main reasons more rapes are not reported. People are afraid of being accused of lying about it or faking for attention/revenge, which is only escalated by the few people who DO lie about it for attention/revenge.
It really sucks that such a horrible, traumatic event has been turned into a damn victim-blaming escapade where the victim is guilty until proven innocent.
Even if it WAS fake, other people looking for advice on the same situation could easily find it.
More particularly - even if it was fake the support and advice within the responses could be of great support to someone who is in a similar situation.
These threads even if fake are like fire drills. In the case that OP was fake we should treat it as real and if OP goes gwaker on us then we mark that as a drill and we're more ready for the next one. Reddit is an awesome community and we can get over being trolled by someone who would post something that can really happen. The building doesn't have to be on fire for the fire drill to have benefits. Regardless of the OP status it's real enough to matter.
I don't get how trolling about rape makes reddit gullible. it's a pretty believable story. you're just an asshole.
Really? I know people who have been raped. This isn't funny. You're trivializing the plight of the true victims for the sake of a joke. Everyone on here was trying to be supportive and help you in what seemed like a time of need and all along you were just being a jerk. There's a line between being a troll and being a dick, and you crossed it.
"The only people fucked in the ass here was you."
Ohhh internet troll. We have a badass over here
Wow man, you thought it was funny to troll people with this...?
/r/mensrights theres a group of people who have ACTUALLY gone through this. It isn't nearly as funny as you think it is.
Yeah, you weren't being funny. This isn't trolling, it's being an ass.
To be honest, you've just kind of made it a lot harder for any actual victims to come here for help. You're a real asshole for that, if you're really this bored then maybe you should just go and get a dildo shoved up your ass. You piece of shit.
Fuck. You.
EDIT: This is a serious issue and while I don't have a problem with people trolling, this is just ridiculous.
Because false allegations of rape are so hilarious. It's interesting that you call people responding to distress "Gullible". It's not gullible, it's empathy. You abused the empathy of Reddit, not it's gullibility. For that, the next time someone says something serious, there are a lot of people that won't be willing to help because they'll remember you.
You're a piece of shit, on reddit and obviously in real life. This was nothing less than irresponsible. And that quote of yours, given the context, it was more than believable. Hell was constructed to comfort people in to believing that people like you end up getting what they deserve; right now, I'm hoping it's real.
It's kind of horrible that you used rape to troll reddit. False reports and making a joke out of it like this is why so much of it goes unreported. Posts like this take advantage of those concerned redditors that offered help and condolences, and will make them less likely to even bother in the future. Take this shit somewhere else.
You call yourself a "troll", but for crying wolf like this, you are scum.
Not only have you lessened your worth as a human being by spending so much time perpetuating such a stupid lie, but you've lessened Reddit's worth because now they're going to treat genuine requests for help with more suspicion.
Police. Now.
Make a statement, get checked out.
If not for you, then for her next victim. Don't be the one who knew but said nothing.
The rape kit is exhausting and the entire process is emotionally traumatic. Know that you are not alone in this. Many other people have been through the horror and come out of it to live normal, happy lives. Don't make this who you are. "someone who was raped". Rather, it is something that has happened to you, and something you can grow from. It's hard to imagine not living in shame when you're at this beginning stage, but shit like this gives you character, and that will make you a better person in the long run. Hang in there.
Op, you're the reason people (men and women) don't report rape. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Not cool, asshole. People do actually use Reddit as a way to get help.
With posts like this I'm sure Reddit is done. Too many idiots flocking here these days.
You absolute piece of shit. I never cuss at a fellow redditor but fuck you. Rape is nothing to joke or troll about. You took advantage of people caring, and you choose the most horrific subject. I hope karma gets a piece of you.
There's a difference between people being gullible and you taking advantage of people wanting to help someone in a serious situation.
What a sad, pathetic life you must live.
Seriously. Look at it. This dude is a fucking troll.
Firstly, the first paragraph is extremely suspicious, because most accounts of rape get straight to the point, and don't waste time describing the person. This sounds like a story straight from the start, especially with the sentences:
She had a few quirks but nothing that would indicate something as terrible as what had happened... Honestly, the only hint I had received she was capable of such an act was when she had told me she was into bondage the day before the incident.
Sounds like a story, doesn't it? Well I think it is.
Secondly, "I was raped in my anus with a dildo. Please, more details won't help and thinking about it is very painful for me." I don't think a normal person would say "in my anus", as the OP is a male and would normally just say "I was raped with a dildo" and the "where" is implied by the fact that he is a male.
He doesn't talk AT ALL about the events that lead up to him supposedly being raped. At all. When was he raped? All he says is that he was. It doesn't fit in with the rest of the story at all. He doesn't even say that they had sex, just that she spent the night. What the fuck?
Third, how in the hell did he have time to post this, go to the ER which supposedly took hours, and hop right back on with an update about how exhausted he was? And he didn't even post what the results from him going to the ER were? This dude is a troll.
Edit: In one of his comments he says that his anus "pains a little and is red." Did you look at it with a mirror to see that it's red or did you ask your friend who hooked you up with this girl to look? Right. (http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/t6j9k/this_girl_i_just_started_dating_raped_me/c4jysa1)
Edit 2: Oh. Seems he's come clean and I wasn't even the first to call him out. Feels bad man. Oh well.
Oh hun, I'm so sorry this happened to you. You must not blame yourself. If a girl were to be raped in similar circumstances you wouldn't say she were to blame, you had a person that you've known for a few months and was the sibling of a good friend in your apartment - you could never have predicted the events that happened.
I'm glad you're going to the ER, this must be reported to the police. This woman has committed an awful abhorrent crime and should face charges.
RAINN: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) Sexual Assault Hotline (24/7, English & Spanish) 800-223-5001
Please please contact someone to talk about this, whether it be a hotline, therapist, anyone. Don't suffer in silence.
Please PM me if you need someone to talk to. Best of Luck to you.
The story sounded like bullshit to me - but we're instructed to take all rape calls very seriously at the crisis hotline I volunteer for. You're supposed to reassure the caller and let them know it's not their fault, and encourage him or her to go to the hospital. The posters in this thread did the right thing, regardless of how unbelievable your story is, they helped.
Yes because lying about being raped brings the lulz like nothing else on the internet... douche.
What a fucking dick. Rape isn't something to take lightly or joke about.
Im calling it. Fake. Your fucking username gives it away. "haha i got raped in the ass. dont laugh at me!"
What I don't get about your trolling is that the only people "fucked in the ass" were the people giving a crap about your post.
When you next need to ask for advice on the net or search on here for something, remember that people helping people with legit problems will have that nagging "are they a troll? is it worth me bothering to post back?".
Just a note, she committed forcible sodomy on you. (Which luckily is easier to prove than her forcing you to have "normal" sex.)
If you go to the police, they can examine you, and they will be able to see that what happened to her. If she claims rape, then they will likely do similar tests on her, and hopefully (I assume she hasn't been raped recently) that there's no signs of forced sex on her...
You're going to the ER, if you tell them you were raped, they will likely do this examination, after that, you should go directly to the police.
OP, please excuse these forever alones who think what happened to you sounds cool. It's not. But, as you can see from the comments here, any legal path is going to be difficult.
The most important things you can do now are get the fuck away from this girl and get yourself some help to sort it out. Therapist, doctor, crisis line, just start somewhere.
This sucks but you will get through it.
My problem right now is she's telling me that she'll tell the police I raped her
If someone stole your wallet, and then told you that if you went to the police they were going to tell them that you were the thief, what would you do?
Seriously, file a report if you want to press charges and are prepared to testify. If not then I suggest you seek some counselling.
The difference is there's no proof that you were the thief and there's no reason to believe them.
Unfortunately in this country, it's easier to believe a man raped a woman than a woman raped a man.
A rapist is not going to damage his ass and falsify a rape of a girl he raped, the police would see right through her . Its counter productive, a criminals objective is to get away and accusing the victim of the crime you just committed against them is good way to get caught.
What has that go to do with anything? He was raped, he should be concerned about that, not how the situation would be better if the situation was reversed.
I believe the point is that there are strong prejudices in play. It would be like if a rich man stole a poor kid's wallet, then threatened to reverse the accusation if the kid went to the police.
Also, I'm just going to throw this in the mix: lock down your Facebook.
You are a tool. This kind of thing happens to guys and no one takes them seriously, you are just one jerk out of many, acting like it's some kind of joke.
Fuck you OP. Don't lie about rape, these people on Reddit were trying to help you. They believed you. There is stuff you joke about and stuff you don't. Grow up.
If you have any evidence, you should go to the police. Go to a doctor and document any injuries you may have received.
Yeah you sure showed us! People taking a rape accusation seriously, jokes on us, huh?
I'm not sure what kind of good it does to troll like this. So people give you the benefit of the doubt and try to be helpful instead of assuming that you're lying to them. If you had been telling the truth then wouldn't it be better if people actually acted the way the did instead of calling you a liar?
And now you act like we're the idiots for being nice? Congratulations. It's like you called up a charity and said you were going to donate a bunch of money, and then when the day comes for you to bring it to them you call them a bunch of retards for believing you.
*Edit 6: Final, and best, edit. Listen, the truth is I was bored late at night with nothing to do talking to a friend. We were talking about how gullible most Redditors are I said something along the lines of "I bet I could get to the front page if I trolled them considering how stupid most of them are." Well, guess what? I've never trolled before, wrote a half-assed story and those who were smart enough to point out how bullshit it was were mostly downvoted. Honestly, I'm sorry I trolled you guys so hard, I never meant to front page it.
You get that this actually happens to men and they have to live with it for the rest of their lives, right?
This isn't trolling, this is you being a total fucking douche. I hope this thread filled whatever cry for attention you had. You're a fucking cunt.
There are lots of good, useful comments here. But, I would like to go on a slight tangent and say:
Being into bondage is not a sign that someone is a rapist.
Fuck you. Rape isn't a joke or a troll. This HAPPENS to people, and because of scumshit like you, they aren't believed. Is fake internet karma really worth so much to you that you feel the need to add to the rape culture? This was a whole community of people that were here to support you and you're laughing at them for believing you had actually been hurt and wanting to help. Fuck you.
It's not because Redditors are "stupid" that they believed you; it's because they are normal, caring people.
It's not because you're brilliant that you were able to be believed; it's because normal, caring people treat personal disclosures of distress seriously even if they do sound like bullshit. I prefer to assume your story is true and risk being considered naive to assuming your story is false and risking not helping you. Only a sociopath can assume that every story like this comes from another sociopath who manipulates others' emotions for fun.
Please be careful. In the story of The Boy Who Cried Wolf, it's not the naive townsfolk who could no longer get help when they needed it.
You should ALWAYS report rape. Especially if you're a man and got raped by a woman. Not because it's worse (it isn't), but because at the moment it's usually not taken as seriously, which needs to change.
What the hell? Male rape is something that isn't taken seriously enough to begin with, why would you troll about something like that? It's only helping to enforce this idea that guys getting raped is a joke. Please consider the consequences before you do something like this again. This whole thing was in bad taste.
First, OP, I'm incredibly sorry for what happened to you, and I'm glad you had someplace to turn to to get some great advice.
Now, with that out of the way, I'd like to take a moment to stand on a soapbox. I'm late to the game, so no one will probably see this, but I felt I had to say something.
Reddit, we really need to stop and take a better look at the consequences of our skepticism. A certain amount of skepticism is very warranted and important in a lot of situations, but before we start crying foul of everything (which there's always a well up-voted comment in almost every thread) we need to stop and take a closer look at the outcome of our actions. Ask ourselves what harm or good is going to come from this.
Take this discussion as a perfect example.
Let's just for a moment imagine OP is lying, but we all believe him. What's going to come of that? We all waste a few minutes of our lives talking to him, and he gets a few unimportant, irrelevant internet points. OP didn't provide ANY information that could lead to pitchforks and mobs, so there's no chance that the hive-mind would go attack an innocent person. Yah, sure, arguably crying wolf on rape could devalue the cries of those who have a legitimate issue, but we're talking about an internet forum here, odds are that if he's lying he's not going to take it beyond here.
Now, let's imagine the opposite. OP is telling the truth, and we all call him a liar. What sort of consequences does that have? Well OP will probably feel pretty shitty, he won't get the advice he desperately needs, and we're all a bunch of assholes.
So, skepticism is great, wonderful, and incredibly invaluable for situations where believing something someone said could lead to harm, or scams or anything else. But don't you think that in a situation like this, it's better to fall on the side of compassion?
Wouldn't we all be a lot better off if we just stopped to ask ourselves "what would happen if...?"
Also, I still stand by my soapbox, even if OP was a troll. What happened? We all feel a little embarrassed (and maybe angry) for our trust being abused. Isn't that a far better outcome than the alternative?
you forgot something very important:
this raises awareness and encourages discussion about male rape ---- which i think is very important. I know there will be men who have been through this, and they will read this thread, and it will help them immensely -- because they are too afraid or shamed to come forward and share their stories.
Yes. Thank you. Even if he's not telling the truth it's opening up a dialogue.
As a female I can't even begin to imagine how terrible this must be for men. As a woman it would be really, really bad (I imagine, I'm fortunate to never have experienced it). It can only be even worse for men because of the societal pressures they face - people tend not to take them seriously, make jokes about it, accuse them of being weak for not defending themselves (but what's the flip side? getting accused of abuse if you do?) ... As women we can't talk about equality without incorporating the issues of both sides.
exactly. i think this thread (even if it is completely fake) is SO HELPFUL, as this topic is not addressed enough AND IT DOES HAPPEN.
Yet we have the troll police out on their white horses making sure everyone hears them bang their drum and say 'hey look at me! i'm so smart i figured out this was fake! oh wait, it's helping people anyway? Doesn't matter! fake! lalala"
ugh.
As women we can't talk about equality without incorporating the issues of both sides.
Agreed Agreed Agreed. i'm against sexism and it goes both ways, and it's really important to raise awareness about the topics that don't get discussed as often -- because men believe it makes them weak, and society says 'that ain't any good'. which is sad, really...
Honestly, the only hint I had received she was capable of such an act was when she had told me she was into bondage the day before the incident.
Being into bondage is NOT the same as being a rapist.
You're such a jackass. You aren't half as clever and funny as you think you are.
I know this is going to sound like I'm lying but please listen.
and you did lie
GTFO. These stories are not a joke. you shouldn't take advantage of these situations. People's lives have been ruined by events like this. I don't think they will appreciate this "joke".
I agree with Tomm0509. It sounds like she sodomized you, and as a victim of sex assault, you have to defend yourself. End this now before it has a chance to get worse. Go to the police now!
Honestly, I usually think these troll things are funny, but rape is not something to joke about. Edit: also, it's not necessarily that people of reddit are gullible. Its that they're caring and trying to help a person who they think needs help.
**Edit, after seeing Edit 6 appear: I can't decide whether to hat-tip this troll for success, or be furious that someone would troll using sexual assault/rape, when the issue is already highly-charged and prone to suspicion.
It's almost like people purposely filing false accusations: all you're doing is making it harder for legitimate crimes to be treated fairly.
Never mind, I decided. Fuck you, troll. Joking about that stuff isn't funny. Ever.**
With stories regarding sexual assault / rape, one thing I always do is swap the genders of the parties involved, and see how I would react in the opposite situation.
I'm glad you got the evidence and are going to the police. Make sure to update us.
For anyone interested in the "gender swap" perspective, here's the story with the genders swapped, with minor corrections in grammar.
Please Reddit, I need some advice. I know this is going to sound like I'm lying but please listen.
I've known this guy for a little more than 2 months, after he was introduced to me by his brother, who is a good friend of mine. We talked and hung out but only recently started dating a week ago. Throughout the time I've known him, he seemed fairly normal. He had a few quirks, but nothing that would indicate something as terrible as what had happened... Honestly, the only hint I had received [to indicate] he was capable of such an act was when he had told me he was into bondage, [which was] the day before the incident. I thought that was a little weird but didn't make much of it.
Last night, after I had gotten out of work, I picked him up and brought him back to my apartment. We ate and watched a movie and started kissing shortly after. After we were finished, he asked if I'd like to have sex... Now, I'm a 22 year old virgin and I've always been a bit, I guess you could say, of a nerd. I want, well wanted, my first time to be with someone I truly loved. I told him this after he asked, and he didn't take it well. He accused me of lying just to not have sex with him, and that his brother paid me go out with him. I had no idea what the fuck he was talking about; he proceeded to say some other crazy accusations. I told him this relationship wasn't going to work out, so he ran into my bathroom and locked himself in. I've just realized I'm rambling a lot about the details and not the actual incident, sorry. I'll try and shorten this post up. After some deliberation he ended [up] staying the night, [that is,] after he had apologized. I felt pretty bad about the whole thing, and he asked to [stay], so I said yes. I let him sleep on the couch, [and I] planned on [taking] him home in the morning.
As I keep thinking about this I can't stop thinking how stupid it was to let him stay the night. I really should've known better... The way he became so emotional and distraught about me not sleeping with him should've been an instant alarm... So I fell asleep in my bedroom an hour after laying down. I did hear him walking around a few times but didn't think much of it.
I'm sorry, I just don't want to get into all the details about myself being raped. It's very tough to think about let alone tell all of Reddit. My problem right now is he's telling me that he'll tell the police I raped him... Not only that but when his brother, who used to be a close fucking friend, came this morning he threatened to harm me greatly if I did anything. I really don't know what to do.
Edit: Because so many people need to know, I was raped in my anus with a dildo. Please, more details won't help and thinking about it is very painful for me.
Edit 2: I will be back to reply, I need to take pictures as a Redditor suggested. Also, thank you so much to those who are actually giving advice. It means a lot to me right now as you're all I have to talk to about this.
Edit 3: I have pictures now and will be going to a doctor in the morning. If I can't schedule an appointment today I will go to the police. Thank you so much Redditors, you really helped clear my head. I felt like the world was folding in on me and that I was helpless... I will try as well to get his brother to threaten me again on the phone so I can record it as well. I don't know if they'll answer or be stupid enough but I'm going to try my hardest to sort this out. Again, I love all of you who gave me a plan of action. I'm now going to sleep, it's 4am. This kept me up all night but I feel like I can finally get a little sleep. I'll give you an update if you'd like. Thank you so much.
Edit 4: I'm going to the ER instead. I'll update.
Edit 5: I just got back and I'm exhausted. It's been more than 24 hours since I've slept and the ER took hours. The ER trip went better than expected other than the long wait, and I do now have evidence to present to the police whereas previously I didn't have any. I cannot thank you enough for that recommendation. Also, 180 comments? I'll have a lot to go through when I wake up. My plan right now is to get at least 2 hours of sleep, go to the police station and then provide a full update.
tl;dr: It's rape, no doubt about it, and should be punished as swiftly and fully as possible.
As someone with many friends, male and female, who have been traumatised by rape, I have you tagged as a lying cunt and fuck you right in your trolling face. I hate you and everyone like you for trivialising one of the worst things that one person can do to another just to prove a point to your friend.
Everyone else has already told you what you need to do, so I just want to say, stay strong. We are here for you and we care about you.
Trolling. Seriously?! This shit actually happens to people, rape is not a joke. Ever.
You're a fucking asshole. Why do you even think joking about rape is appropriate?
Whatever you do, do NOT let anyone give you the bullshit that a woman can't rape a man.
If she lies and says you raped her, she'll probably undergo a vaginal exam, and unless someone else raped her recently or something, she won't show trauma, and she'll be caught in her lie.
It should be no different than if a man raped a woman. Go to the police, file charges & then (obviously) break it off for good.
Gotta get up earlier in the morning to fool this old man. I got about 2 sentences in and skipped to the end to confirm my suspicions.
"The only people fucked in the ass here was you."
And all the people who are afraid to report rapes for fear of not being taken seriously. Get the fuck out.
This wasn't nearly as funny of a troll as you think, all you did was gather sympathy about something you lied about. Congratulations, your a liar.
You're an asshole. Rape is not something to fake or joke about. And people here aren't guilliable, they just want to give good advice to people in pain and trouble and are willing to give people the benefit of the doubt. You didn't prove anything about Reddit's culpability. All you proved is that you're not a very good person.
Wow... You played us "so hard" How accomplished you must really feel.
I wonder how many people out there in real situations like this, who wont be regarded as seriously because of people like you. I wonder why more people aren't believed when they say they were raped...
How gullible reddit is. I think I am going to create a word for us to use to call bullshit on stories like this. I have noticed lately when something gains alot of Karma there are all of these copy cat posts that ride on the karma train with little differences, but not enough differences to be anything new. I at first thought these posts were just coincidences but they just keep on coming and coming. So Reddit The next time you see this new trend clogging up your front page, call these people out. Reddit is not about being truthful, it is about kids getting more Karma than their friends. Reddit is just a big competition now.
I hereby coin the term "Copycunt" to describe these pathetic excuse for copycat stories. Go forth and lay the smack down on the Copycunts and downvote them to hell.
Copycunt.
P.S. OP is a Copycunt!
EDIT: ROFL, I just read the rest of this guys post and he actually admitted to being a trol. MY TERM STILL STANDS!! COPYCUNT!
I'm glad this liar is still getting genuine advice.
It shows that no matter what crazy situation is posted, even if fake, there is an enormous community trying to help.
Don't let these lowly sad fuckers jade you, Reddit.
If I was the OP I wouldn't think too highly of myself for making up a totally plausible story and then calling other people idiots for believing it. In fact, gullibility doesn't even enter into the equation here. If we start immediately denying the truth of stories like this then we'll end up just as shitty as the OP.
Seriously dude, you're an idiot and your post here is the proof.
You're a really shitty person. People making up stories about rape is why so many actual rape victims have trouble being taken seriously. Why so many people who are raped don't go to the police because they don't think anyone will believe them. Our culture does way too much victim-blaming in cases of sexual assault, and congratulations, you are now part of the reason for that.
Well done for going to the ER so quickly, and getting help - it takes a lot more bravery than most people would think. Good luck.
edit: and if you are in need of some help or support online, try /r/rapecounseling, they are great.
Am i the only one abit baffled as the logistics of this? Did she over power you? Could you not fight her off? Where did the dildo come from?
I'm not meaning to call you a liar or anything.. rape is a very very serious thing. I don't want to detract from that, But i just can't make the story work with the details you have provided..
EDIT: I aint even mad at all of you for doubting me.. but next time use your heads.
OP has a right to not divulge the details of his attack since he seems to be genuinely distraught by it. I know Reddit needs evidence, and in a situation like this, it seems all the more pressing to give details, but they are not for us to wade through. They need to be sorted out with police and health professionals. I don't mean this as an attack on you, I'm just saying that OP has a right not to go into details.
Do you really think all men are physically stronger than women? That's crazy talk.
Think you could stuff a dildo into a unwilling woman's ass? Guarantee it's about 10 times harder than it sounds, unless you're freakishly strong.
Not at all, But what i'm saying is even if she was stronger than him it would not be an easy task whatsoever..
This is a bit of a strange thing to relate it to i know, but i am much bigger and much stronger than my brother i am 5 years his senior he is a quiet boy.. I tried to pin him down and draw on his face last weekend just for a laugh. It was near enough impossible... and that was just messing around. If i had tried to put a dildo in him i can guarantee it would be impossible..
that was a very weird paragraph to write...
I'll say what everyone seems to be tip toeing around:
TROLL
Edit 4: going to the ER
Edit 5: ER took hours.
On a 4 hour old post!
Oddly similar to this post from the same time yesterday. OP in both instances seems to be more interested in playing dumb, practicing avoidance and telling people to fuck off more than they are about getting help. I'll put $1,000 on it being the same troll.
I agree. I talked about it here when OP first posted. However, I'm getting downvoted into oblivion. It always amazes me how Reddit is so quick to gobble up clearly fake stories like this. I thought this thread was dead, but judging by the surge of upvotes it must have hit the front page. Well, fuck.
So you're a virgin, and she was at your place...but she raped you with a dildo? She just carries this thing around? What a crock of shit.
Dude. Fuck you for trolling about rape. Even some of the most immature assholes I've met in my life know that rape isn't something to joke about. Obviously you've never experienced it yourself or had a loved one experience it, because then you would understand how completely life-altering and horrifying rape can be. Congrats on getting attention on the internet. Grow up.
woman gets raped, the response is "cut his dick off" man gets raped, the response is "lol, great job dude"
You're a fucking asshole. Shit like this is why people don't take male rape seriously. [Ie: newest edit.]
Redditors were concerned for the well-being of a purported rape victim. You have just been a massive douche.
You're a dickhead. It's not that we are gullible, but rather that we tend to be a caring group of individuals.
Please make sure you keep this updated. Men are programmed by society to think they have to remain strong and stoic regardless of events, even from a young age. I can say that I saw abuse go on when I was younger and I always used to blamed myself because I was the oldest boy among my sibling's and even as a child felt ashamed I couldn't protect the people I loved. I remember first crying myself to sleep at about age 4. I remember having my first homicidal thoughts at about age 5-6. Helplessness, fear, anger, confusion and a million other negative emotions could have changed me as a person forever. All because I felt I couldn't ask for help.
Fuck that. I know now that only by embracing our frailty can we learn to love it, nurture it and protect it in ourselves and others. That is what makes a man strong. Protecting innocence, not pride.
The more these issue's are brought to light, the more people will think twice before putting the burden of individual strength on young developing males. I don't want to put too much pressure on you, but you could be playing a part in saving someone else's life, know that.
wow OP. I'm sorry for what happened to you. absolutely nobody deserves that, regardless of gender. rape is rape. that being said, perusing legal action and medical attention is something that is very brave and commendable, as not a lot of victims do this. I hope you go continue down this road. I would also recommend some sort of therapy when you're more ready to open up about what happened. good luck in everything OP.
I'm glad you're reporting it. Make sure your concerns about her brother get written into some police report or restraining order. Document everything.
Good luck.
You're a fucking horrible person. Pieces of shit like you are the reason people are so incredulous when someone legitimately tries to share their experiences.
Well, guess what? I've never trolled before, wrote a half-assed story and those who were smart enough to point out how bullshit it was were mostly downvoted. Honestly, I'm sorry I trolled you guys so hard, I never meant to front page it. Seriously people? "Because so many people need to know, I was raped in my anus with a dildo. Please, more details won't help and thinking about it is very painful for me." Are you fucking kidding me?
Fuck you
Honestly, no regrets. The only thing you've demonstrated to me today is that this community is willing to go on scant evidence to help someone that could really use it. There are many posts on here about the pros and cons of trusting/distrusting the OP, and most end in a fairly reasonable argument that when there is very little at stake for just trusting the OP, they're willing to take the risk of being duped. They're right, and it's an honorable thing to do to try to help someone that is between a rock and hard place, and it's your own prerogative to troll if you please, yet personally I still have no regrets for trusting on the off chance someone is actually hurting and in need support and advice.
Also, you're a huge dick.
Without details I can only speculate, but if you've been injured in anyway you should take pictures and go to the doctor for an examination. The doctor can also give you better guidance than us, and everything you say is confidential so you don't need to fear her or her brother.
With a report from the doctor you head to a lawyer and see what your options are regarding civil or criminal prosecution.
If you're not injured, or it's been too long since, you'll have a hard time, but still check with a lawyer. Check into legal aid if you can't afford it.
Good luck.
Do something now. You must. They are only threatening you because they are scared of the repercussions. This only confirms that something awful has been done to you. You are brave for admitting this, please continue being strong.
You need to do something about this! I know it's incredibly hard to deal with it and even think about it, but if you don't do something, who's to say she won't do it to someone else? I'm sure the police will be able to tell you what might happen should you decide to press charges. Please at least see what they think, and if they can get any evidence of it.
Everybody knew you were lying. They just wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt, since they know there is no way for you to prove anything. I hope you actually get raped and then post a story about it, and then nobody believes it
Two quick questions.
1.) Does she have a dragon tattoo?
2.) Are you in charge of her estate?
*Edit 6: Listen, the truth is I was bored late at night with nothing to do talking to a friend. We were talking about how gullible most Redditors are... wrote a half-assed story... I'm sorry I trolled you guys so hard, I never meant to front page it.
OP. You are a horrible person for preying on the good of mankind. There's little enough left in the world, and trolling those who display it is not "fun" or "cool"... frankly, it's just... (silence. Due to realization that the OP doesn't care how disappointed people are in him. At all).
So what happens now to the next person who asks reddit for help and they really were raped? I hope they'll be able to find the help they need. I hope people won't have been desensitized by this lie. You may think such things are fun, but you don't think beyond that.
Guy gets to the front page by playing with peoples emotions, saying he was sodomized by a woman. This is why reddit can't have nice things
Making false rape accusations and pretending you got raped isn't a fucking joke. Grow the fuck up.
When you'll get actually raped, and i hope you won't, that will be real karma.
Thanks for making reddit even more suspicious and preventing further victims to come forth and ask for help. You're fucking hilarious, really.
Cool, make light of an issue that's already taken too lightly. You're not a douchebag or anything.
You know that crying rape is highly immoral behavior, right?
I hope that someone who actually is/was raped will benefit from the good advice on this thread.
Seriously, you're an ass.
This is in no way trolling, like the top commenter said "If there's even a chance of it being real, trying to help is worth it"
Thank you for ruining Reddit a little bit for everyone.
Male rape is a legit serious issue and its people like you who make it hard for people to come forward because so many people think its a joke.
On the other hand I'm proud of Reddit because if someone was seriously going through this you've proved that Reddit would be there for them. The only person you trolled was yourself.
Seriously, OP, fuck you. This is a real problem that is actually incredibly difficult for people to deal with and you just make it harder when you pull shit like this. Now the next person that needs help, for real, is going to have to ask themselves if they'll get accused of being a troll because of assholes like you. Grow up.
Better give advice to a troll than hurting someone who's genuinely looking for help.
Believing your story has nothing to do with intelligence. Neither has trolling reddit.
I bet I could get to the front page if I trolled them considering how stupid most of them are.
I like reddit for the helpful and awesome people you can find here. I hate reddit for people like you that are playing with their kindness trying to make them look like idiots.
People are willing to risk being fooled in the hopes that what they say will help someone.
So what I see makes me feel better about Reddit. Your story wasn't very believable, but still people were wiling to help you.
You don't understand this and that is your misfortune as a person.
Actually, the people who are going to get "fucked in the ass" are the people who seriously need help, but don't get it because you and other trolls have trained people to call bullshit on people claiming to be in an emotionally compromised state.
When women make false reports of rape they are (rightfully I'd say) hated. A man making a false report of rape (even though it's just to reddit) deserves scorn even more, since men who are the victims of sexual assault are usually shamed into not reporting it. Shit like this just makes things worse for men. So fuck you, buddy.
Oh wow, you 'trolled' people into believing you were a man who was raped. People already see the idea of men being raped as a joke and because of that few come forward. So thank you for further damaging the perception of men being raped.
You're despicable. You're a complete loser for even thinking this was funny and you're a horrible person. Men have a hard enough finding people to believe them when they are actually raped and now you are contributing to the problem. Grow the fuck up.
TL;DR Asshole accidentally creates helpful guide for male rape victims, somehow now thinks he's cooler.
OP actions = -10 faith in humanity.
Reddit community reaction = +800000 faith in humanity
OP, what happened to you is truly awful. Get all the help you can. Go to the police and the doctor. Do you have anyone not on the internet you feel comfortable telling about this? Going through this is hard enough, going through it alone is worse. Having someone there at the doctor, or with you talking to the police, or just someone who will stick with you. This is awful now, and I wish I could tell you it gets better immediately, but that's just not true. It'll suck, a lot, for a long time, but once you've gotten through all of that, it will start to improve. Slowly, you will begin to move on with your life. Best of luck to you, just know there are people out there who care about what happened to you, and will continue to care about your recovery. Try your best to stay strong.
Just curious... If she slept over at your place... Where did the dildo come from?
If you have an extra key to your place, you might want to check to make sure you still have it. I'm not trying to scare you, just trying to offer advice that others might not think of. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Good luck with everything. And don't be afraid to messege me if you want to talk
You have absolutely no idea the harm you've done to actual rape victims who would need this advice and support. Are you seriously ridiculing people for taking a rape victim at his word?
I know you must be feeling pretty amazing having trolled yourself to the front page on the first time but that just shows how disconnected and blind you are to the real world.
People weren't stupid for having believed you, you were a complete moron for making it that much harder for rape victims to be believed and get support.
I didn't get raped in the same form you did, but I got raped by a woman who over powered me and made me cum inside of her, that was her goal. She later became pregnant and tried to pin the child on me, but had 6 other possible fathers. Which shows me she has either done this before or sleeps around, later on I found out it was both.
I didn't speak out because I thought it was impossible for a man to be raped because we're stronger than women. But when you just meet someone and you're not sure what they're capable of, and they won't take "NO NO NO" for an answer.. what do you do?
I cried. For hours afterwards. I was so distraught Ic ouldn't find my way home and I've lived in this city for a long time. It was painful, and scary.
I went to get counseling with my wife because we were having issues and before this happened, my wife and I had just broken up and I wasn't searching but happened to meet this girl through a friend and I wanted to be friends... well, it led to a bad area. My wife took it hard that I went off that quickly.. we later got together after all of this took place.
The girl ended up almost tearing my wife and I apart, so like I said, we went to counseling, when we did, the counselor blamed me. She told me that I needed to apologize to my wife for what happened. All I could think was: " Apologize for being raped?????? " my wife has a hard time to this day believing I was actually raped as I'm a very big man.
But when someone you don't know, comes at you like that and is very physical when you try to stop the incident, the only thing that ran through my mind was "She's going to pin rape on me if I leave bruises, she'll press assault charges if I throw her to the floor... I'll just lay here and maybe she'll quit"... I did just that.. she didn't quit.. went on for an hour and she had finished and I said "Please, enough, you got what you wanted" and she continued to use kegel exercises while doing it, which in turn made me cum and as I was cumming I was shoving her off of me and she was forcing her body down on me.. she got off, laid down and literally passed out, that was it. It was her drug.
I went to the bathroom cleaned up, and cried.
I'm sorry you had to go through this, man. It does happen, and you're taking initiative which is awesome, I wish I had.
It'll always torment my relationship with my wife, it'll always make me wary of women, in fact, I'm battling anger issues because of it. I don't take it out on my wife or anything, but anger towards women of her stature in general.
I'm sorry. That's all I can say. Good luck, you will get through this. Find someone to talk to (therapy).. my experience sucked, but there are good ones out there.
Dude, don't go to reddit for advice when it comes to stuff like this. Just go to the police.
This is a serious issue and a good portion of Reddit took it seriously.
OP may have been trolling, but goddamn, Reddit, I'm proud of you.
Congratulations on taking advantage of people trying to help you AND simultaneously destroying some of the credibility of male rape cases which struggle enough as it is.
I don't get mad (usually) if I personally get trolled...but this just makes me sad.